The Cat's Escaping from the Bag...

I am a little frustrated & upset. Shortly after we found out we were pregnant, we told our parents, asking them not to say anything to anyone until the second trimester. Adam actually told his oldest brother, Jon, right away when they were hunting, and soon after called his sister, Jacque, in California to tell them. He was waiting to tell his other brothers, Charles & Ben, until he saw them though. He saw Charles when they went to get the cabin ready for deer hunting and told him, and when he saw Ben at the gun show, he was going to tell him, but he already knew.

I guess Adam's mom had told all their friends at the bar, one of which lives below Ben. So of course Ben found out from this fellow, and Adam wasn't able to tell his brother that we are expecting our first child. I feel bad that Adam lost that chance, and that Ben had to find out from someone who isn't even family that his own brother is going to have a baby.

Adam wasn't surprised, as I guess it's hard for his mom to keep a secret. I know it's exciting news (trust me, it really is for us!), but we would like to wait until we are out of the first trimester for the rest of the world to know. The rate of miscarriage is pretty high in the first trimester and if that happens to us, it will be a lot harder on us if more people know. Which is why we've picked & chosen who we've wanted to know.

I was disappointed also to find out that his mom had started to tell someone else, when my sister-in-law nudged her to tell her that some people (her kids... our nieces & nephews) don't know yet. And she told the lady to "just keep it between them." But one of our nieces found out. Of course she is really excited, but it's hard for a 7-year-old to keep a secret from all her brothers & sister.

At Thanksgiving, we had planned on telling everyone, since it would be close to the end of the first trimester & all the family would be together anyway. But from the sound of it, a lot of the extended family already knows. I'm disappointed that we've had our exciting announcement of our first child stolen from us. But we've learned our lesson from next time.